How to Deal with Jealousy

It’s encouraging to hear about artists who are making a success of their businesses. But do you ever feel hopeless, helpless, and jealous in spite of it?




It’s only human to sometimes envy others who are doing something we would love to do – or have achieved a goal we’re itching to tackle ourselves. But deep down we all know that it’s counterproductive, and that we need to focus on ourselves and own businesses to get real satisfaction.

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own. ~ Harold Coffin

Sometimes it’s helpful to have a reminder:

Jealousy really has to do with you, not them. You allow envy to creep in when you start comparing yourself with others. Other artists have different dreams and needs. They have different experiences and get different results. Focus on your own vision. What do you want?

Acknowledge what you are feeling. It’s OK to envy someone else’s success, but isn’t healthy to dwell on it. Commenting to others, or thinking of put downs just prolongs your emotional state. Let it go. It will pass.

You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be. ~ Wayne W. Dyer

Mind your own business. That’s right – take care of the small business that you started, and that you are nurturing.  Re-evaluate what your own goals are, and start working on your own business, without worrying about what anybody else is doing.

Find a mentor. As artists mature and live a full and satisfying creative life, they get more joy out of mentoring and watching others succeed than earning more accolades for themselves. Seek out this type of mentor who will be an advocate and champion, and who will celebrate your own successes with you.

Look for role models. Perhaps hearing of someone’s success will give you an opportunity to take a look at what they’re doing right. There’s nothing wrong with using strategies that you perceive to be effective in building your own business. After all, you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. Forget jealousy and use what you have learned to move forward towards your own success.


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